Re: Black Hole
Posted: Sun Oct 04, 2020 2:02 pm
I completely understand how you feel. Buttons was my special dog. From the moment she spotted me at the shelter, I was her person. When she died, I had that hole in my heart and searched and searched for another Dalmatian. After months, 3 trips to another state.....one of which could have seen me arrested for kidnapping....and much drama finally brought Gotcha (hence the name). But I kind of failed Gotcha. She wasn't Buttons. Were Buttons viewed me as the best thing in the world, Gotcha was a dog's dog. She and Snuggles bonded to the point he only lived about a week after her (they both out lived their breeds life expectancy.
When Gotcha died, I wanted another dog. I thought I found a puppy, but couldn't have a pitbull. I instead this little stripped dog kept in the section with the aggressive dogs gave our whole family "the look"....and you know the road we've been on for our perfect dog, life changing dog who just happens to be part of the one breed we couldn't have.
My point is not to let the black hole suck you in. I know from experience that hole can be obsessive. But you can take action. I know you want Leela to meet the new dog..we packed up Snuggles and Peanuts and took them with us on our multi state trip to meet the Dal I was supposed to get when we met Gotcha the first time.
I know you are like me and think shelter first, but you are the ideal adopter for some of the breed specific rescues. You have experience and knowledge. For rescues that cannot place a true working dog in an inexperienced home, an adopter like you is perfect. I suspect you could even qualify to adopt from places like Warrior Dogs and the military.
But to get what you want you may have to either look in unexpected places (like the room with all the "aggressive dogs") or be willing to travel a bit (just don't forget to get court approval if it means taking your foster child beyond state lines
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When Gotcha died, I wanted another dog. I thought I found a puppy, but couldn't have a pitbull. I instead this little stripped dog kept in the section with the aggressive dogs gave our whole family "the look"....and you know the road we've been on for our perfect dog, life changing dog who just happens to be part of the one breed we couldn't have.
My point is not to let the black hole suck you in. I know from experience that hole can be obsessive. But you can take action. I know you want Leela to meet the new dog..we packed up Snuggles and Peanuts and took them with us on our multi state trip to meet the Dal I was supposed to get when we met Gotcha the first time.
I know you are like me and think shelter first, but you are the ideal adopter for some of the breed specific rescues. You have experience and knowledge. For rescues that cannot place a true working dog in an inexperienced home, an adopter like you is perfect. I suspect you could even qualify to adopt from places like Warrior Dogs and the military.
But to get what you want you may have to either look in unexpected places (like the room with all the "aggressive dogs") or be willing to travel a bit (just don't forget to get court approval if it means taking your foster child beyond state lines


